Friday, July 1, 2011
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Friday, March 4, 2011
I am back.
How many of us start a project and drop it after only weeks? It could be a weight loss program, an exercise routine, your annual business plan, etc... I am no different except I am coming clean right now with you all. I started my blog with the intent of writing weekly. Then I struggled with what to say after awhile. I am back and am taking a fresh approach to this worthwhile project.
My goal in creating this blog was two fold: give credit to my Dad and my family for lessons taught and to share these lessons with you in hopes of providing inspiration. I think I attacked this with the usual verve and then lost steam. Does this sound familiar to you?
I am adjusting my approach so that I can still accomplish my main objectives, but without the unreasonable expectation of perfection. I am now committed to sharing these life lessons with you, but I will focus on small moments that had impact in my life. I've realized that the small moments add up and not everything has to be BIG and MONUMENTAL.
Small gestures, small tokens of recognition, small voices of feedback, small steps taken all lead to making a difference. I will commit to recognizing the small moments. How about you? Walking through life acknowledging the difference you can make in small ways is what people will remember. I have feared that my tombstone would say, "Jodi was a really great employee at Coldwell Banker Triad Realtors." Now don't get me wrong...I am proud of my efforts, accomplishments, and vision at my company, but I want to be remembered for qualities that go deeper into the heart and soul!
I have finally realized that my work is an important part of who I am and I offer small moments daily to those around me that, hopefully, make a positive difference. Fairness is important to me as is accountability in actions around me. Being a responsible person is a good thing. I have broad shoulders and have learned to handle much in my life from my experiences-good and bad. My Dad teaches me regularly to make the most of every moment, My Mom teaches me restraint, and the rest of my family keeps me grounded. These lessons have not appeared in big ways, but in small moments. I get it now!
I wish for each of you that "light bulb" moment where you realize and accept the wonderful small moments you provide and receive daily. They are so important! If you have left a project, it is okay to go back and adjust. Step out, take action, enjoy, and acknowledge your uniqueness!
I am back and I am with you!
My goal in creating this blog was two fold: give credit to my Dad and my family for lessons taught and to share these lessons with you in hopes of providing inspiration. I think I attacked this with the usual verve and then lost steam. Does this sound familiar to you?
I am adjusting my approach so that I can still accomplish my main objectives, but without the unreasonable expectation of perfection. I am now committed to sharing these life lessons with you, but I will focus on small moments that had impact in my life. I've realized that the small moments add up and not everything has to be BIG and MONUMENTAL.
Small gestures, small tokens of recognition, small voices of feedback, small steps taken all lead to making a difference. I will commit to recognizing the small moments. How about you? Walking through life acknowledging the difference you can make in small ways is what people will remember. I have feared that my tombstone would say, "Jodi was a really great employee at Coldwell Banker Triad Realtors." Now don't get me wrong...I am proud of my efforts, accomplishments, and vision at my company, but I want to be remembered for qualities that go deeper into the heart and soul!
I have finally realized that my work is an important part of who I am and I offer small moments daily to those around me that, hopefully, make a positive difference. Fairness is important to me as is accountability in actions around me. Being a responsible person is a good thing. I have broad shoulders and have learned to handle much in my life from my experiences-good and bad. My Dad teaches me regularly to make the most of every moment, My Mom teaches me restraint, and the rest of my family keeps me grounded. These lessons have not appeared in big ways, but in small moments. I get it now!
I wish for each of you that "light bulb" moment where you realize and accept the wonderful small moments you provide and receive daily. They are so important! If you have left a project, it is okay to go back and adjust. Step out, take action, enjoy, and acknowledge your uniqueness!
I am back and I am with you!
Monday, November 29, 2010
A Hail Mary Pass To The Universe
For those not interested in football, a hail mary pass is one the quarterback throws long, often times, when in a real pinch in the game. I guess the term could have started at Notre Dame when the team priest said a prayer asking that the pass be recieved and a touch down scored. Catholics don't mind asking for assistance ( I can say this since I was raised in the Catholic Church! LOL).
Now that we've got that bit of trivia out of the way, I want to tell you why I believe throwing those prayers, wishes, thoughts and FEELINGS out to the Universe is so important. I heard a minister many years ago say, "What comes out of your mouth will be." Think about it folks...If everything out of your mouth is doom and gloom; what do you attract? More of the same, I am betting. Do you feel you live an abundant life? This is the question. Not what you think, but what you feel. Deep feelings are a part of your core. A thinking process is just that...you decide to give thought to something. When you feel something, it just happens!
Many of you recognize this theory called the "law of attraction". If you throw your prayers and feelings out to the Universe consistently and with passion..it is amazing the doors that open and the answers given. Gratitude is a key element in the law of attraction. It must given from a sincere place in your heart and without any ulterior motives.
Here is an example of the law of attraction: You really want a new shiny red car and not any car but the ONLY car you've ever wanted! It consumes your thoughts and feelings. You even cut out a picture of it and post it on the bathroom mirror. Before you know it...what is the car you see the most out on the road? That's right, the ONLY shiny red car you've ever wanted. The law of attraction is working. The problem arises when you start to THINK about all the obstacles to getting THAT car.
One could argue that the feelings and focus in this part of your brain is so powerful that the more attention you give to something...the more likely it is to happen as a result of actions taken. I don't know, but I do know the law of attraction works and it requires effort to continue those "Hail Mary" passes to the Universe a lot every day!
A vision board is used by many so that they can see what they feel and want. We are mostly a visual population so pictures often resonate most powerfully. I am working on my vision board as we speak. I want the visual reminder to keep throwing my "passes"! I'm all in as they say at the Texas Hold'em table! How about you?
If this intrigues you, I would encourage you to watch "The Secret" movie or read the book titled the same. The website is also very useful.
I would love to share more about this with you, if you'd like. Feel free to email me with YOUR feelings. I'm throwing it back to you now!
Now that we've got that bit of trivia out of the way, I want to tell you why I believe throwing those prayers, wishes, thoughts and FEELINGS out to the Universe is so important. I heard a minister many years ago say, "What comes out of your mouth will be." Think about it folks...If everything out of your mouth is doom and gloom; what do you attract? More of the same, I am betting. Do you feel you live an abundant life? This is the question. Not what you think, but what you feel. Deep feelings are a part of your core. A thinking process is just that...you decide to give thought to something. When you feel something, it just happens!
Many of you recognize this theory called the "law of attraction". If you throw your prayers and feelings out to the Universe consistently and with passion..it is amazing the doors that open and the answers given. Gratitude is a key element in the law of attraction. It must given from a sincere place in your heart and without any ulterior motives.
Here is an example of the law of attraction: You really want a new shiny red car and not any car but the ONLY car you've ever wanted! It consumes your thoughts and feelings. You even cut out a picture of it and post it on the bathroom mirror. Before you know it...what is the car you see the most out on the road? That's right, the ONLY shiny red car you've ever wanted. The law of attraction is working. The problem arises when you start to THINK about all the obstacles to getting THAT car.
One could argue that the feelings and focus in this part of your brain is so powerful that the more attention you give to something...the more likely it is to happen as a result of actions taken. I don't know, but I do know the law of attraction works and it requires effort to continue those "Hail Mary" passes to the Universe a lot every day!
A vision board is used by many so that they can see what they feel and want. We are mostly a visual population so pictures often resonate most powerfully. I am working on my vision board as we speak. I want the visual reminder to keep throwing my "passes"! I'm all in as they say at the Texas Hold'em table! How about you?
If this intrigues you, I would encourage you to watch "The Secret" movie or read the book titled the same. The website is also very useful.
I would love to share more about this with you, if you'd like. Feel free to email me with YOUR feelings. I'm throwing it back to you now!
Thursday, November 4, 2010
The Underdog.
Many ask me how it feels that Wake Forest football is struggling so much this year...They know that I am "gold and black" to the core. While it never feels good to be the underdog or on the losing end of the fourth quarter, I see glimers of hope. Coach Grobe has taught and coached all season. He has instilled life lessons that will carry these young men a long ways in life. Being the underdog allows a freedom to learn and grow without pressure from outsiders. The only pressure applied comes from within. The Demon Deacons are competing each week. Sometimes they compete with themselves AND the opposing team. It can be quite overwhelming for a young team.
As I look at the many struggles in peoples' lives, it is easy to adopt a defeatist attitude. I wake up each morning with a prayer for wisdom, patience, and the will to stay focused on what I have, not what I don't. I get out of bed and stretch my legs and remind myself to stretch my mind that day. My Dad, the Coach, walks two miles with Belle (his precious canine companion) every morning no matter the weather. This allows him to clear his mind and get his gratitude in motion.
In the very competitive real estate industry, everyone looks for a weakness in a company so they can recruit. I want to focus on the positives in my company and what we do well. Don't get me wrong, I want to recruit too, but I want to accomplish it with positive facts. I do not care about being the biggest real estate company around, however, being the best we can be is imperative!
The lesson today from the Coach's Daughter is...Whether you feel like the underdog or are on top of your game, you can always learn, stretch, and be more grateful. Lets do this today!
As I look at the many struggles in peoples' lives, it is easy to adopt a defeatist attitude. I wake up each morning with a prayer for wisdom, patience, and the will to stay focused on what I have, not what I don't. I get out of bed and stretch my legs and remind myself to stretch my mind that day. My Dad, the Coach, walks two miles with Belle (his precious canine companion) every morning no matter the weather. This allows him to clear his mind and get his gratitude in motion.
In the very competitive real estate industry, everyone looks for a weakness in a company so they can recruit. I want to focus on the positives in my company and what we do well. Don't get me wrong, I want to recruit too, but I want to accomplish it with positive facts. I do not care about being the biggest real estate company around, however, being the best we can be is imperative!
The lesson today from the Coach's Daughter is...Whether you feel like the underdog or are on top of your game, you can always learn, stretch, and be more grateful. Lets do this today!
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Getting to the finish line...
I realized today how easy it is to put things off in favor of the easy way out. Most humans will take the path of least resistance, whenever possible. I have done so today by choice, but I want tomorrow to be a different course of action. I don't want to say it...I want to do it!
I know it is up to me (and no one else) to take those steps forward. As I plan my day tomorrow, I recognize that I tend to schedule too much, so I will focus on a couple of important objectives. I have to remind myself that whatever I accomplish by the end of the day was in fact most important to me. Priorities versus goals. Goals are that which I set my mind to do, while priorities are what I actually accomplish. This concept can be eye opening, if you track it for several days.
Sometimes finishing several small tasks can offer a most satisfying feeling, particularly, if you mark them off your list as you complete them. I am visual so making a list and ticking the items off the list is gratifying. In today's economic climate, it is easy to slide into poor, non productive habits because we say to ourselves, "What difference does it make? It will be the same tomorrow." Often it is hard to notice progress when you are not looking for achievements no matter how substantial. I must remember to look for these opportunities to feel good about meeting my objectives and those of my coworkers.
I must plan my day and work my plan. It sounds easy, but requires commitment. You see, it is my belief if you have a strong plan that is reasonable and relevant then you will have flexibility to change when necessary. Your plan leaves that room to adjust. I've watched several agents have more successful years in this economy that ever before, it is because they adapted their plan and committed to meeting daily objectives. They put fear aside and did not take the easy way out and they realized it was up to them and no one else to succeed. They inspire me and make me proud.
I know it is up to me (and no one else) to take those steps forward. As I plan my day tomorrow, I recognize that I tend to schedule too much, so I will focus on a couple of important objectives. I have to remind myself that whatever I accomplish by the end of the day was in fact most important to me. Priorities versus goals. Goals are that which I set my mind to do, while priorities are what I actually accomplish. This concept can be eye opening, if you track it for several days.
Sometimes finishing several small tasks can offer a most satisfying feeling, particularly, if you mark them off your list as you complete them. I am visual so making a list and ticking the items off the list is gratifying. In today's economic climate, it is easy to slide into poor, non productive habits because we say to ourselves, "What difference does it make? It will be the same tomorrow." Often it is hard to notice progress when you are not looking for achievements no matter how substantial. I must remember to look for these opportunities to feel good about meeting my objectives and those of my coworkers.
I must plan my day and work my plan. It sounds easy, but requires commitment. You see, it is my belief if you have a strong plan that is reasonable and relevant then you will have flexibility to change when necessary. Your plan leaves that room to adjust. I've watched several agents have more successful years in this economy that ever before, it is because they adapted their plan and committed to meeting daily objectives. They put fear aside and did not take the easy way out and they realized it was up to them and no one else to succeed. They inspire me and make me proud.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Camp Town Races
The Coach and his siblings love to compete...everyone of them! At Tate family reunions, we would all participate in games and races much like many families do once a year when they get together. The difference at the Tate reunions was the level of competition. Let me remind you that all the Tate boys competed at the college level in football and some went on to play at the professional level and coach in high school and college.
As a child, I knew the expectation in these family games was to give it your all no matter what! An unwillingness to try was worse than defeat. If you were going to fail at a Tate reunion race, then fail big and leave it all on the field. I learned in those early days watching the Coach and my Uncles that splashing around in any competition can teach you some important lessons: how to win, how to play, how to lose, and how to laugh. These lessons are key concepts for a happy life and a happy business.
The Tate brothers and sisters played games with gusto and never forgot the bond of family. Do you belong to a work family that encourages you to work with gusto and embraces the above mentioned lessons?
In any challenging time, you must adapt and go in to each day with a passion for the game you are playing right then at that moment. Show Up, Listen, Laugh! This is not a dress rehearsal.
How will you compete today?
As a child, I knew the expectation in these family games was to give it your all no matter what! An unwillingness to try was worse than defeat. If you were going to fail at a Tate reunion race, then fail big and leave it all on the field. I learned in those early days watching the Coach and my Uncles that splashing around in any competition can teach you some important lessons: how to win, how to play, how to lose, and how to laugh. These lessons are key concepts for a happy life and a happy business.
The Tate brothers and sisters played games with gusto and never forgot the bond of family. Do you belong to a work family that encourages you to work with gusto and embraces the above mentioned lessons?
In any challenging time, you must adapt and go in to each day with a passion for the game you are playing right then at that moment. Show Up, Listen, Laugh! This is not a dress rehearsal.
How will you compete today?
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
The Power of Now
We miss so very much by not focusing on the "now". All the little details of the presenter's message...the body language, the tone of the message, or the opportunities offered are overlooked without undivided focus.
Fortunately, you can practice this skill set. There are many techniques you can embrace, but try the following simple steps first:
1. Pick the "right" location for your conversation or meeting
2. Remove distractions
3. Remind yourself out loud how important it is to concentrate on this other person's message
4. Give yourself an incentive for accomplishing the goal of focusing in this situation. I.e. If I totally focus and observe all the signals and cues being given in this meeting, then I will treat myself to a latte.
5. Work requires work so you must practice concentrating.
At your next meeting, look for cues and opportunities. Actively listen to the other party. Engage them in conversation by asking questions. Make eye contact and turn your phone off. Share your message as well. Building rapport and overcoming objections is key to the relationship and the sale.
Many try to close a sale without truly focusing on the communication first, both verbal and nonverbal. How observant are you?
Personally, I know that enhancing this skill will benefit your life physically, financially, and emotionally. Think about the many different ways to concentrate in your life. Do you agree or disagree? Let me know your thoughts. At the very least, I guarantee you different results!
Friday, August 20, 2010
There are times when you must...
I am one of those people that will go until I am exhausted. Are you? With all the talk about the movie, "Eat,Pray,Love" it begs to be asked...Do you need to rest and search your soul? I believe we tend to move at a pace that allows us to deny much of our deep thought. Myself included.
I plan to reread the above mentioned book this weekend and let myself rest both physically and mentally. I feel this will open my mind to possibilities and thoughts that I have perhaps buried in my fast pace. You don't have to read a book or see a movie to spur on this self reflection, but you do have to find a quiet place where you can "just be". This may not be easy but it is so necessary to your personal peace of mind.
Staying on the go is the path of least resistance when it comes to self discovery. Being quiet with yourself can be uncomfortable. When is the last time you were quiet enough to center yourself and focus only on your breathing? Clear your mind. I commit to this time this weekend and I am doing it for me! I am worth the quiet time. I know you are as well!
I plan to reread the above mentioned book this weekend and let myself rest both physically and mentally. I feel this will open my mind to possibilities and thoughts that I have perhaps buried in my fast pace. You don't have to read a book or see a movie to spur on this self reflection, but you do have to find a quiet place where you can "just be". This may not be easy but it is so necessary to your personal peace of mind.
Staying on the go is the path of least resistance when it comes to self discovery. Being quiet with yourself can be uncomfortable. When is the last time you were quiet enough to center yourself and focus only on your breathing? Clear your mind. I commit to this time this weekend and I am doing it for me! I am worth the quiet time. I know you are as well!
Friday, August 13, 2010
CAN AN OLD DOG LEARN NEW TRICKS?
My cohorts don't like the term "old". I turn the "big 50" this year and got my AARP letter in the mail a few months ago. Age has never been a big concern for me except when I wanted my drivers license! I say bring on the discounts. LOL
I am not insinuating that any number is old only that with each year that goes by....things change. Now, people call me "maam" and offer me a level of respect that I did not get when I was 25. Now, I admit to more aches, but I could do something about that in the way of daily exercise! Now, I am more comfortable in my own skin than I have ever been. Now, I laugh more at road rage than involve myself in it. Now, I am comfortable by myself. In fact, I require it to keep my sanity. Fortunately, Henry likes his own space as well!
I think I like my age because I have continued to push myself to learn new things. I embrace change because I know it stretches a particular muscle (brain) I need to use. I know you can learn no matter your chronological age, but you must be willing. It is not enough to say it, you must have the courage to do it. Yes, you might fail, but who cares? You are old enough to know better, right?
With age comes wisdom (hopefully), it also affords you the freedom to reach without worrying about what people think.
So Friends, the lesson today from the Coach's Daughter is this...Go for it! Try something new today. Take a new direction to your favorite book store or try something new on the menu! Any "dog" can learn new tricks no matter what their age is.
I am not insinuating that any number is old only that with each year that goes by....things change. Now, people call me "maam" and offer me a level of respect that I did not get when I was 25. Now, I admit to more aches, but I could do something about that in the way of daily exercise! Now, I am more comfortable in my own skin than I have ever been. Now, I laugh more at road rage than involve myself in it. Now, I am comfortable by myself. In fact, I require it to keep my sanity. Fortunately, Henry likes his own space as well!
I think I like my age because I have continued to push myself to learn new things. I embrace change because I know it stretches a particular muscle (brain) I need to use. I know you can learn no matter your chronological age, but you must be willing. It is not enough to say it, you must have the courage to do it. Yes, you might fail, but who cares? You are old enough to know better, right?
With age comes wisdom (hopefully), it also affords you the freedom to reach without worrying about what people think.
So Friends, the lesson today from the Coach's Daughter is this...Go for it! Try something new today. Take a new direction to your favorite book store or try something new on the menu! Any "dog" can learn new tricks no matter what their age is.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
The Tortoise or The Hare?
We all know this story.Depending on your personality, you probably resemble either the tortoise or the hare in life. Some days I am not sure which one makes the most sense so I threw it out to my FaceBook friends the other day. "Small step or big leap?" was all I had to say and I had numerous opinions about the pace of the race.
The different responses filled me with satisfaction since I realized there was not a correct answer only unique opinions. One of my friends said, "It depends." How true! I guess today's post is about patience and acceptance.
What do I mean? I tend to get anxious and impatient when I want to take action. How about you? I work everyday to step back and evaluate without losing the importance of taking action. There are times when you simply must breathe and accept "no answer" yet to whatever question lies in front of you. This does not mean something good isn't taking place. Acceptance leads to serenity.
The Coach has an unwavering faith in God. He relies on it daily in order to maintain a rosy viewpoint of life. Some might say he only sees the good in people and this is not realistic. I, on the other hand, appreciate the beauty and good my Dad sees every day. His acceptance allows this in his life. Now this does not mean he is happy every moment, but he certainly feels at peace in his own skin. It is wonderful to witness.
Today's Lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...Work to be patient without losing your drive and give yourself permission to accept something if you don't feel the timing is right to take action. Meditate about it and I am certain the right answer will become apparent to you. You will then know whether to run the race like the tortoise or the hare!
The different responses filled me with satisfaction since I realized there was not a correct answer only unique opinions. One of my friends said, "It depends." How true! I guess today's post is about patience and acceptance.
What do I mean? I tend to get anxious and impatient when I want to take action. How about you? I work everyday to step back and evaluate without losing the importance of taking action. There are times when you simply must breathe and accept "no answer" yet to whatever question lies in front of you. This does not mean something good isn't taking place. Acceptance leads to serenity.
The Coach has an unwavering faith in God. He relies on it daily in order to maintain a rosy viewpoint of life. Some might say he only sees the good in people and this is not realistic. I, on the other hand, appreciate the beauty and good my Dad sees every day. His acceptance allows this in his life. Now this does not mean he is happy every moment, but he certainly feels at peace in his own skin. It is wonderful to witness.
Today's Lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...Work to be patient without losing your drive and give yourself permission to accept something if you don't feel the timing is right to take action. Meditate about it and I am certain the right answer will become apparent to you. You will then know whether to run the race like the tortoise or the hare!
Monday, July 26, 2010
Lord of the Rings
Do you sometimes feel like you have the burden of the "middle earth" on your shoulders? Frodo (the hobbit) bore the weight of the ring until he relinquished it to the fires of the middle earth. The real estate industry can be heavy and cumbersome at times, however, "Frodos" are always around to help ease the burden.
My post today revolves around asking for help. A crucial part of communication is asking questions and listening. I realized this past week that once in a while I must ask the same questions over and over again to find my solutions. It can be quite frustrating, but absolutely necessary! On the recieving end, I may be percieved as pushy or dogmatic. All I know is that you can move mountains by asking questions a lot.
My Dad, the Coach, is on the phone a lot. He listens and then will pose a question and wait. It is very effective (sometimes intimidating, but effective). A leader in any job, career, sales transaction, etc...solves problems. You may represent a client in buying a home, but solving problems and handling the processes are really what you are being paid for. Do you have a list of questions you ask in every situation? Are you prepared for those scenarios by checking and rechecking?
Asking for help is hard for me. I learn every day the importance of seeking assistance both professionally and personally. We are so much more successful in life working together rather than singularly. It is humbling to see the response one gets by reaching out from an honest place in your mind and heart. I hope this message finds a small corner in your heart that encourages you to ask for help. You must be prepared to work and give real effort, in order for the assistance to bear fruit.
Today's Lesson from the Coach's Daughter is... Ask lots of questions as many times as necessary and to as many people as necessary to find your solutions. Don't give up. People will respond to your sincere pleas for help. They will work with you for success! Do you have your list of questions ready for the many differenct scenarios you will encounter in today in real estate?
My post today revolves around asking for help. A crucial part of communication is asking questions and listening. I realized this past week that once in a while I must ask the same questions over and over again to find my solutions. It can be quite frustrating, but absolutely necessary! On the recieving end, I may be percieved as pushy or dogmatic. All I know is that you can move mountains by asking questions a lot.
My Dad, the Coach, is on the phone a lot. He listens and then will pose a question and wait. It is very effective (sometimes intimidating, but effective). A leader in any job, career, sales transaction, etc...solves problems. You may represent a client in buying a home, but solving problems and handling the processes are really what you are being paid for. Do you have a list of questions you ask in every situation? Are you prepared for those scenarios by checking and rechecking?
Asking for help is hard for me. I learn every day the importance of seeking assistance both professionally and personally. We are so much more successful in life working together rather than singularly. It is humbling to see the response one gets by reaching out from an honest place in your mind and heart. I hope this message finds a small corner in your heart that encourages you to ask for help. You must be prepared to work and give real effort, in order for the assistance to bear fruit.
Today's Lesson from the Coach's Daughter is... Ask lots of questions as many times as necessary and to as many people as necessary to find your solutions. Don't give up. People will respond to your sincere pleas for help. They will work with you for success! Do you have your list of questions ready for the many differenct scenarios you will encounter in today in real estate?
Monday, July 19, 2010
Nature vs. Nurture--What side are you on?
No matter what side of the aisle you are on, you must agree that it is a conscious decision you must make to either maximize your natural gifts or simply "get by" with those gifts.
Today's Lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...Everyone is born with a gift, Use it fully to make a difference!
Friday, July 16, 2010
Technology...Grrrrrrrrrr
Some days, no I mean some weeks technology can be confounding at best and down right frightful at worst! This has been one of those frustrating weeks. I know I must roll with it and breathe. In our world today, change is inevitable. There is good stress (eustress) and bad stress (distress). All stress impacts us physically, mentally and emotionally. How we respond determines our outcome everytime!
Some exercise or garden, while others shop or knit. It is important to open your mind up to positive ways to deal with stress. Talking a walk instead of eating potato chips or reading a book versus buying spontaneously. It's all about choices. Every moment you have a choice about the next moment and what you'll do.
Mind you...I am not the smartest or the healthiest, but I do decide every moment what I will do next. So do you! Today's post started because of my frustrating week with technology and now I get to decide how I will handle that stress as my work week comes to an end. I am making a decision to laugh more, eat less, and hug as many people as I can this weekend.
What would the Coach do? He would play golf, take Belle (his chesapeake bay retriever) for a swim, go to church on Sunday, and eat a small bowl of ice cream after dinner. He understands how to deal with his stress!
Life's Lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...You have choices, no matter what and where you are in life. They may not be big decisions, but they are yours. Make the most of them!
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Fear Itself...
Remember the quote, "You have nothing to fear, but fear itself." How many of us walk around in fear or "analysis paralysis"? Do you plan a lot and never act on those plans? Is this because you are fearful of failure?
Activities breed activity. Brian Piccolo succeeded in his short life because he embraced his fears and moved past them. His undying sense of adventure and willingness to move kept him on everyone's radar screen.See Life Lesson #2 to read more about Brian and see the video from the movie about his life.
The Coach told me last Friday that he was beginning his rehab from surgery. He is working with weights and swimming again. "Jod, I could swim the length of the pool underwater right before my surgery and now I can only do half the pool. But, I am going to get there soon. I am not afraid to keep swimming a little further every day." (The coach is almost 80!) My Dad understands that success normally doesn't come in a big way but usually in small consistent steps. DAILY FOCUS and ACTIVITIES.
I leave this post today more committed to my own daily focus and activities. I am admitting that I can spend my time more productively and that my success will come from my own volition.
Today's Life Lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...Take one small step in the right direction today. Add another tomorrow. Commit to yourself and let go of the fear that binds you. I know you can do it!
Activities breed activity. Brian Piccolo succeeded in his short life because he embraced his fears and moved past them. His undying sense of adventure and willingness to move kept him on everyone's radar screen.See Life Lesson #2 to read more about Brian and see the video from the movie about his life.
The Coach told me last Friday that he was beginning his rehab from surgery. He is working with weights and swimming again. "Jod, I could swim the length of the pool underwater right before my surgery and now I can only do half the pool. But, I am going to get there soon. I am not afraid to keep swimming a little further every day." (The coach is almost 80!) My Dad understands that success normally doesn't come in a big way but usually in small consistent steps. DAILY FOCUS and ACTIVITIES.
I leave this post today more committed to my own daily focus and activities. I am admitting that I can spend my time more productively and that my success will come from my own volition.
Today's Life Lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...Take one small step in the right direction today. Add another tomorrow. Commit to yourself and let go of the fear that binds you. I know you can do it!
Thursday, July 8, 2010
Can You Change?
We all know change is inevitable and often times stressful. We also know that change is necessary to evolve. Technology pushes us daily to embrace this mindset. I feel I have to continue to learn so I can lead effectively. With all this said, there are times to slow down, reflect, and remember. Can you remember times when a face to face in person conversation was the only kind you had? No email, texting, skype, etc... I can. Can you remember times when a written thank you note or letter was all you recieved? No email, drip campaigns, or Facebook, etc... I can.
Today's Lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...Change is necessary. Change can be good. You must embrace it and learn to grow. Remember the importance of personal touch and communication without technology. A great negotiator always will try to meet face to face in order to better read body language and overcome objections.
Your assignments today: 1. Meet face to face with someone and discuss business. See what kind of results you get. 2. Embrace change in some way and see what you can learn.
The title of today's post is "Can You Change?" The word "Can" means "are you able" while the word "May" asks permission. I believe we "Can" all learn to change and you must give yourself permission to do so.
Today's Lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...Change is necessary. Change can be good. You must embrace it and learn to grow. Remember the importance of personal touch and communication without technology. A great negotiator always will try to meet face to face in order to better read body language and overcome objections.
Your assignments today: 1. Meet face to face with someone and discuss business. See what kind of results you get. 2. Embrace change in some way and see what you can learn.
The title of today's post is "Can You Change?" The word "Can" means "are you able" while the word "May" asks permission. I believe we "Can" all learn to change and you must give yourself permission to do so.
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
A Difference of Opinion..Does it Matter?
Today's lesson is about opinions. Do you have one that you like to express? How do you present your opinions? It is an inalienable right to express oneself, so I say go for it! I do, however, feel timing is everything so you should use strong communication skills to voice your opinion. Listen intently, use tact, watch your tone, and do your homework.
A conversation indicates more than one person talking and listening. I work daily on my communication skills. I believe public speaking and communication are the most vital skills in any sales career and maybe in any career! Again, I ask you "How do you present your opinions?" Winning ways are often all in the presentation!
My Dad, the Coach, is used to locker room communication. (LOL) In case you aren't familiar with that kind of talk...it is loud, focused, commanding, and hopefully, inspirational. This type of one way conversation is necessary in this scenario and perhaps in some military operations. I would suspect that these leaders have prepared by discussing their message with assistants and have done their homework completely. Sometimes teams must follow their leaders into battle against all odds.
I think a difference of opinion is healthy in most situations as long as the interaction is honest. And the leader must be prepared to listen and then make the tough calls, if necessary. An open mind is one that learns and expands. So opinions DO MATTER!
From the Coach's Daughter...Learn to communicate and then express yourself appropriately. It will benefit you personally and professionally! See how Elmer does it.
A conversation indicates more than one person talking and listening. I work daily on my communication skills. I believe public speaking and communication are the most vital skills in any sales career and maybe in any career! Again, I ask you "How do you present your opinions?" Winning ways are often all in the presentation!
My Dad, the Coach, is used to locker room communication. (LOL) In case you aren't familiar with that kind of talk...it is loud, focused, commanding, and hopefully, inspirational. This type of one way conversation is necessary in this scenario and perhaps in some military operations. I would suspect that these leaders have prepared by discussing their message with assistants and have done their homework completely. Sometimes teams must follow their leaders into battle against all odds.
I think a difference of opinion is healthy in most situations as long as the interaction is honest. And the leader must be prepared to listen and then make the tough calls, if necessary. An open mind is one that learns and expands. So opinions DO MATTER!
From the Coach's Daughter...Learn to communicate and then express yourself appropriately. It will benefit you personally and professionally! See how Elmer does it.
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
Just Wanna Have Fun
Let's talk fun, laughter, joy, giggles, play, etc...The Coach told me last Saturday that he felt strong enough to go to the golf course, rent a cart, and follow his cronies around for 3 or 4 holes. Mind you, he still has a neck collar on and following his buddies for 4 holes of golf in the cart may tax him a bit. The Coach wants to have some FUN! July 4th is upon us and we celebrate our Independance with family picnics, beach trips, fireworks, and reunions. Let's face it, July 4th gives us an excuse to PLAY!
There is a real business reason to discuss fun. If you enjoy what you do, then you will do it well. If you make parts of your work a game, the day to day challenges can be fun. If you participate in friendly competition at work, you laugh together and have fun. It seems having fun may not be the politically correct thing to do at work, but I am here to say, "Those that Play together...Stay together." We simply must laugh more to succeed and reach our goals. Laughter causes us to breathe and oxygen is necessary for our bodies to support our daily activities.
You can have fun anywhere anytime. Look for opportunities to laugh with someone. Make a difference today! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-14JLnyE6k
Today's lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...There is a difference between "distress" and "eustress". Laughter is a great reliever for both. Your challenge: Go to your Websters and look up the two words. It may help you define "fun" in your life!
Friday, June 25, 2010
Do Rules Really Suck?
I have pondered what to share with you over the last few days and it finally came to me this morning. We all have rules to follow in our world. I asked myself and now you, "Do Rules Really Suck?" I say "No" in most instances.
The Coach could not lead a winning team without rules to follow. Every successful business today has a credo or set of principles it follows. Each of our unique Faiths offers us a set of rules to follow to achieve peace.
Are rules meant to be broken? The writers of said rules would say no, but would also probably tell you that there are times when you may have to bend those guidelines. People with strong character know when to stand firm and when to bend.
I struggle today as my young nephew will have consequences for breaking the principle of telling the truth. He knows it is coming and I hope this time will make a positive difference in his young life. I know it is hard to hang tough and be firm when it is easier to ignore or overlook.
It is my humble opinion that we have overlooked too often and our young people are suffering as a result. What kind of character can we expect if we don't lead by example? What kind of human being can we hope to lead the next generation without offering that young mind solid guidance and rules. Until you understand what the rules are and accept them..you do not know when to bend them and why it might be appropriate to do so.
Today's lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...A good set of rules does not have to be bad. Remember the "Golden Rule"?
The Coach could not lead a winning team without rules to follow. Every successful business today has a credo or set of principles it follows. Each of our unique Faiths offers us a set of rules to follow to achieve peace.
Are rules meant to be broken? The writers of said rules would say no, but would also probably tell you that there are times when you may have to bend those guidelines. People with strong character know when to stand firm and when to bend.
I struggle today as my young nephew will have consequences for breaking the principle of telling the truth. He knows it is coming and I hope this time will make a positive difference in his young life. I know it is hard to hang tough and be firm when it is easier to ignore or overlook.
It is my humble opinion that we have overlooked too often and our young people are suffering as a result. What kind of character can we expect if we don't lead by example? What kind of human being can we hope to lead the next generation without offering that young mind solid guidance and rules. Until you understand what the rules are and accept them..you do not know when to bend them and why it might be appropriate to do so.
Today's lesson from the Coach's Daughter is...A good set of rules does not have to be bad. Remember the "Golden Rule"?
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Kick the Ball and Drag...Kick the Ball and Drag...
The Coach has always told me that it is very difficult to start too many new things at once because you lose your focus. Of course, I believed myself to be extraordinary so I disagreed with him at the time.
My story goes like this...New personal relationship, New position in real estate, New home all this happening at the same time in my life. We've all been there! I was stressed one day because the new home was great and the new job was making tracks as well. However, the new relationship was dragging. I called my Dad to vent and his response was, "Jod, you can't kick the ball and drag ________(will remain unnamed). You also can not give the attention necessary to see all three new things in your life flourish."
My lesson today is short and sweet...Do not spread yourself too thin because inevitably something will suffer. The difference between a goal and a priority is at the end of the day your completed tasks were YOUR PRIORITIES. Like it or not.
Your action today: make your list of to do's and see what was really important at the end of the day.
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